Sunday, December 2, 2012

Can you just eat around it?

How many times have you heard, "Can you just around it?"  As if I could eat the pie fillings, but just leave the crust.  If only it was that easy!

This is a tough time of year, and after almost 4 years of being gluten-free, there will still be times every now and then, it can get frustrating.  I mean, I am pretty cool with the fact that when I go to someone's house, a holiday craft show, or an open house, it is pretty likely that I won't be able to eat anything.  I will make sure I eat something before I go, and If there is wine, I am fine.  I may even have a piece of cheese, if it is on a plate on its own and not next to bread and crackers.  Of course, I always try and bring something, so at least I know I can have one one thing.

Sometimes I feel like I am a broken record when people ask why I can't just eat around the offending gluten, or give me a look like I am being overly paranoid.  Sometimes, I just want to not have to explain myself.  Yes, it is difficult, yes, there is not much available in these situations, and yes, it can suck.  But, it is just food, and I will eat when I get home.  Sometimes I worry it bothers other people more than it bothers me.

And then the worst part, is when people will say casually something is gluten-free, yet, but I don't feel like asking a hundred of questions about asking to see the label, or how it was cooked, and honestly, I don't wish to spend the next several hours being sick, so please don't be offended if I just choose not to try it.

I know people have the best intentions, especially my great group of friends.  And I really do miss the days I could be like everyone else, and just eat what I see, no questions asked.  But now that I know what the outcome is when I do get sick, I won't risk it.  No matter what it is.

I have been to a couple of parties lately that were as usual full of lovely gluten. I don't expect to eat anything, so I am really not bothered or upset.  Then a friend will tell me they made something that is gluten-free, and it is next to all the lovely gluten-filled treats.  I am so appreciative, but it fills me with such anxiety, I just don't feel comfortable to eat it.

I do appreciate when people go out of their way to provide something that is gluten-free, but if I feel the slightest bit uncomfortable, I won't eat it, and then I feel awful about possibly offending them.  But frankly, I will say no, before I risk getting sick.

So, while I feel more comfortable in social situations, because I am used to the fact that I can't eat all those lovely goodies, I wish people were more comfortable about me not being able to eat.

How do you handle social situations during the holidays?